Love is Wonderful, But Conflict Is Inevitable

You’re engaged and planning a wedding! You are looking forward to a happy and prosperous life together, one filled with love and joy. So why should you be concerned about conflict? Conflict, it’s not the most romantic topic of discussion for couples you are planning to get married. But every relationship no matter wonderful it is will have disagreements and challenges. Learning to navigate them and not avoid them will be the key to a successful marriage.

Here is where premarital sessions on conflict resolution can be beneficial. Marriage is not always smooth sailing, sometimes the water is rocky. In-laws, financial stress, children, career changes, work life balance, household chores and different communicating styles can lead to friction. Premarital conflict resolution can help you and your partner work through issues and equip you with tools to effectively deal with conflict so that you don’t wound or damage your partner.

Premarital Conflict Resolution Helps You:

Build Communication Skills. Working with a premarital coach will help you learn how to express your needs and feelings honestly while practicing active listening with empathy.

Highlight Common Relationship Challenges. Discuss areas where you may have different viewpoints-finances, friends, careers, spirituality, children-learn to address them constructively and respectfully.

Explore Communications Patterns. Patterns in communication can make conflict worse and cause frustration and resentment in your relationship. Defensive behavior or dirty fighting often happens when we feel attacked, judged or criticized.

Strengthen Your Bond. Couples who learn how to work through conflict build a strong foundation of trust, loyalty and commitment.

Resolving conflict is not about being the “winner” in an argument. It’s about creating a safe place where both views can be expressed and respected with the expectation of working together for a solution that is beneficial for both partners if possible. Focus on “I” statements instead of accusatory language. Practice active listening and avoid interrupting your partner when they are speaking. Take a time-out when necessary if things get heated and celebrate times when you successfully work through conflict.

Living Ceremonies offers premarital sessions where we discuss communication and conflict as well as other topics to help couples create a solid foundation for their marriage. Contact us to schedule your session.